Help for Healing

Bitter & Sweet, living daily with grief

Good Will


One of the great things about writing Bitter and Sweet has been the people I have met and the stories I have heard. There are many, many people in the world that are trying to do good things with thier lives and resources. Today Brigitte and I had the opportunity to meet some neat people… again.

There is a group called Rural Outreach Center. Their tag line reads: “Assist- Elevate- Empower.” They have some property but no building yet. There has already been five years invested in doing hard-core research and for the last four months they have been helping people on borrowed space.

The thought process is to give people in country settings a one-stop place to help them in a holistic manner. The man said “How would it be if the first thing you heard when you walked in a door someplace was that someone cared about you?” They have spent months interviewing people and just listening to their stories. They have come up with a comprehensive list of services they are hoping to develop. Finding jobs, raising the level of income, financial budgeting and saving, marriage and individual counseling and support, medical help, literacy programs, etc..

They talked about how many people they have met that just don’t meet the stereotypes that I hear people describe all the time. People DO want to work. They DO want to do the right thing. They are NOT sucking off the system. I hear so much prejudice and assumptions sometimes, that it makes my heart sad.

It’s easy to say “Get a job.” It’s not so easy to tell them how to actually get downtown without taking several buses. And what do they do with their children while they are gone? The scenarios go on and on. Answers are not so simple.

I’m not sure how we are going to be able to help, but both Brigitte and I want to help in whatever we can. It doesn’t fit in exactly with our “mission” with grief group and patient advocacy education. But it does fit in with where our hearts are at- treating people with dignity and respect. Helping people outside of yourself when you are able to.

So thanks to those people who are working tirelessly to make this happen. Thanks for the inspiration. The needs are many and the possibilities are endless for ways people can help. If you are interested, please let me know and I will get you in touch with them. To quote from Bitter and Sweet, “THERE IS MUCH GOOD IN THE WORLD, MUCH, MUCH, MUCH.”

Author: Help for Healing

My name is Darcy Thiel. What people say they appreciate most about me is my genuine nature. I utilize my professional and personal experiences to increase my understanding and compassion to help others. My career has many faces, so let me tell you about a few. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in NY State and am a couple and family therapist. As an Adult Planning Specialist and End of Life Doula, I take my experiences with my parents’ and husband's illnesses and passing to help others navigate the crazy, complicated medical world we live in. This dovetails with the books I have written. Bitter and Sweet: A Family’s Journey with Cancer, the prequel to Life After Death, on This Side of Heaven is an honest and raw perspective on coping with the diagnosis and subsequent loss of Tim, my spouse. I have done extensive speaking on the above topics through live audiences, radio shows, and an occasional TV spot. For more information, see my websites at,, or Copyright Help for Healing by Darcy Thiel © 2012-2019. All rights reserved.

3 thoughts on “Good Will

  1. And a big part of much good is good people, like you and Brigette, Darcy! Love you both! Laureen

  2. What a spectacular mission. At one point, several years ago, I was trying to come up with some answers for my son and other young people caught in that awful place between a rock and a hard place. I have a whole notebook dedicated to my research of resources and how deep the initial help must be. Holistic, that’s it. Not just Food Stamps, but lessons in grocery shopping and preparing nutritional meal on a budget and ways to get to the grocery store with no vehicle…like that. And community based. Grassroots efforts to give others a solid foundation of support, not a hand out that leads to a downward spiral of hand outs… ok, I’ll stop now, but good for you for doing something…even if it is just this post to enlighten others.

  3. Great thoughts, thanks for sharing.

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