Help for Healing

Bitter & Sweet, living daily with grief

Last Call


This is a follow-up blog to last week’s blog called “Begging.”

The detective came to our house last week. The first thing that happened, was that he saw the family picture of us from Tim’s last Father’s Day (the one on the back of Bitter and Sweet). He immediately recognized Tim and said he went to grammar school with him. I think that has motivated him to try harder than normal to figure our case out.

He has taken DNA samples from Colin and I. He also took samples from the cupboard shelf where the money was stolen from. Horrible circumstances aside, it was kind of cool to watch. He told us we wouldn’t have results by the next commercial, though. 🙂

The plan is to get samples from the people who were at my house that weekend. It’s amazes me what they can find out from a little cotton swab. I believe there will also be a lie detector test available to us if need be.

To my surprise, the detective was quite optimistic about nailing this down. So here is my last appeal. Whoever you are, you still have a little bit of time to come to me and tell me what happened. I won’t press charges and we will figure out where to go from here. If this drags on and the detective has to find you, it won’t be so civil. I have been praying, as have many, many others, that your conscience will nag at you incessantly until you come forward. Trust me, you don’t want to live with this hanging over your head. Do us both a favor and do the right thing. Today.

Author: Help for Healing

My name is Darcy Thiel. What people say they appreciate most about me is my genuine nature. I utilize my professional and personal experiences to increase my understanding and compassion to help others. My career has many faces, so let me tell you about a few. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in NY State and am a couple and family therapist. As an Adult Planning Specialist and End of Life Doula, I take my experiences with my parents’ and husband's illnesses and passing to help others navigate the crazy, complicated medical world we live in. This dovetails with the books I have written. Bitter and Sweet: A Family’s Journey with Cancer, the prequel to Life After Death, on This Side of Heaven is an honest and raw perspective on coping with the diagnosis and subsequent loss of Tim, my spouse. I have done extensive speaking on the above topics through live audiences, radio shows, and an occasional TV spot. For more information, see my websites at,, or Copyright Help for Healing by Darcy Thiel © 2012-2019. All rights reserved.

3 thoughts on “Last Call

  1. I love you Darcy… and Rose, Cindy and I are sick to death. Please know I am praying the person turns themselves in to you and the healing can start sooner than that of a trial and the aftermath.


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  2. Hi,

    I keep wondering if it might be a friend of a friend, or a kid that just saw the opportunity and grabbed it. Was it out in the open? I hope something shows on the swabs.

    hugs, Sherry

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