Help for Healing

Bitter & Sweet, living daily with grief

Truer Words…

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Two weeks in a row I’m going to talk about Mary Chapin Carpenter. She is such a woman’s woman. She is so completely human and down to earth. When I saw her in concert a couple of years ago, she was talking about a dark period of her life and thus her album and songs about grief. She has gained some weight over the years so she doesn’t fit the Hollywood star stereotype. I love that about her.

I am still on the “C’s” with my CD’s so I was listening to another one of her’s. I heard this song and I just had to blog the lyrics. I couldn’t freakin’ believe how almost every single line is just a rewording of what I say most days. And frankly, what I hear a pretty significant amount of my friends/clients that are my age say as well. It’s called, “Simple Life.”

You’re making lists today of all the things you haven’t done yet
You’re driving everyone crazy, are you having any fun yet?
Mother says you oughta get married
Shrink says here’s a little blue pill
Too young for your mid-life crisis
Mirror says you’re over the hill

There’s nothing wrong with you
The simple life gets complicated
There’s nothing you can do, just enjoy the view; be glad you made it

You’re making resolutions and it isn’t even New Year’s
You could try a new religion, you could wait until the dust clears
Friends say you’re way too choosy
Shrink says see you next week
Guru says control your breathing
You’re afraid you might have peaked

There’s nothing wrong with you
The simple life gets complicated
There’s nothing you can do, just enjoy the view; be glad you made it

Cuz things could be better, cuz things could be worse
Cuz life can be charmed and cursed
There’s fast, slow and stall, no reverse

There’s nothing wrong with you
The simple life gets complicated
There’s nothing you can do, just enjoy the view; be glad you made it

Truer words were never spoken. At least for late forty-something women. That “cuz” verse is just another version of bittersweet. I’m working on enjoying the view and being glad I made it. Oh, and working on actually believing there is nothing wrong with me. There are days I know without a shadow of a doubt that there is something desperately wrong with me, and most of the people around with me would be happy to verify it if they were brave enough to- ha ha!

I’ve gotta run. I have a big to-do list of things I haven’t gotten done…

Author: Help for Healing

My name is Darcy Thiel. What people say they appreciate most about me is my genuine nature. I utilize my professional and personal experiences to increase my understanding and compassion to help others. My career has many faces, so let me tell you about a few. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in NY State and am a couple and family therapist. As an Adult Planning Specialist and End of Life Doula, I take my experiences with my parents’ and husband's illnesses and passing to help others navigate the crazy, complicated medical world we live in. This dovetails with the books I have written. Bitter and Sweet: A Family’s Journey with Cancer, the prequel to Life After Death, on This Side of Heaven is an honest and raw perspective on coping with the diagnosis and subsequent loss of Tim, my spouse. I have done extensive speaking on the above topics through live audiences, radio shows, and an occasional TV spot. For more information, see my websites at,, or Copyright Help for Healing by Darcy Thiel © 2012-2019. All rights reserved.

One thought on “Truer Words…

  1. ❤ your outlook! After the week we've had, we're counting our blessings and adding things to our bucket list! 🙂

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