Help for Healing

Bitter & Sweet, living daily with grief

To Be Fair…

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I’m not sure if I’ve ever blogged twice in one day, but I felt this warranted a P.S..

I was able to speak to the investigator that took my initial complaint. She started by saying, “I thought I would be hearing from you.”

She is a very ethical person and could not say a lot of things to me about the process of what happens. My intuition tells me she would have if she could have. The wording on the letter, while polite, makes it seem cut and dried. All I could think was that doc was having the last laugh.

She was able to verify that my understanding of what is supposed to occur is indeed accurate. There are many levels of investigation and their goal is to correct whatever errors there are. Hopefully, a doctor only needs one complaint in their career to get things in order.

She was also able to let me know that she spent hours and hours on this case like I did. She also assured me that the physician’s that make determinations did as well. I felt heard and that helps immensely.

While I couldn’t get anything specific out of this very ethical (and compassionate) woman, I would dare guess that this went further than a letter. I suspect that while it didn’t go to the very top, there may have been at least one conversation. That is a really big deal in the medical profession.

My goal was never to crucify the guy. I just want him to get what he did. I want him to understand that he was wrong and I don’t want him to do it to anyone else. I am hoping he will change his perspective on what his job is as a professional.

I will never know if that happens, but I feel some relief in my stomach. I feel like he was at least told and informed as he should have been. What happened to Dad was taken seriously. Very seriously.

And if she is just blowing smoke, I give her credit anyway. She did a great job making me feel better about the whole process without betraying any ethics. Thank you so much! I will rest much easier tonight than I did last night.

Author: helpforhealing

My name is Darcy Thiel. What people say they appreciate most about me is my genuine nature. I utilize my professional and personal experiences to increase my understanding and compassion to help others. My career has many faces, so let me tell you about a few. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in NY State and am a couple and family therapist in West Seneca, New York. Also, as an Aging Life Care Manager, I take my life experiences with my mother and husband's illnesses and passing combined with over a decade of assisting a dad with Parkinson’s, to help others navigate the crazy, complicated medical world we live in. This dovetails with the books I have written. Bitter and Sweet: A Family’s Journey with Cancer, the prequel to Life After Death, on This Side of Heaven are an honest and raw perspective on coping with the diagnosis and subsequent loss of Tim, my spouse. I have also done extensive speaking on the above topics through live audiences, radio shows, and even an occasional TV spot. For more information, see my websites at www.marriageandfamilycounseling.net, www.babycooppublishing.com, or www.darcythiel.com. Copyright Help for Healing by Darcy Thiel © 2012-2018. All rights reserved.

2 thoughts on “To Be Fair…

  1. Darcy I am glad you feel heard & that you got some closure about how terribly they treated your Dad. Good for you for following through – while many may not have.

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