Help for Healing

Bitter & Sweet, living daily with grief

Balance

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Life is a big yo-yo most of the time. Most things are little up and downs and some things are a bit more dramatic. I was having a really rough time for a few weeks in December and then a few weeks in January. It hit me this weekend though that I actually had a decent week!

Getting to see your busy therapist an extra session during the week

Having your meds tweaked just a bit but it seems to help

Seeing a dear friend from high school who I really admire

Getting feedback from my consulting job that my dumb jokes are “making a difference” for staff and patients alike at the cancer hospital. (This was a complete surprise because my job is just to do interviews. Sometimes we make the biggest difference when we aren’t trying to.) And YOU think my jokes are bad. (They actually are.)

Getting a bowl of soup at Tim Horton’s and having them give it to you and say, “Sorry. We are out of spoons. Would you like some bread to soak it up?”

Asking for a half tea/lemonade at Tim Horton’s and having them say with disdain, “We don’t have lemonade here.” Sorry for asking. You have a big sign right there that says you do.

Asking for half sweet/unsweet iced tea instead and having them say with disdain, “We can’t do that.” For cripes sake. I’ve gotten that from Tim Horton’s for years.

Having your client say, “I just need to tell you something that has been bothering me. You really talk too much in sessions. You use up too much of my time.” I can’t even be offended because I know it’s true. I’m thinking of the hundreds of clients over the last almost 30 years that have wanted to say that to me but haven’t had the guts.

Now I’m just wondering if watching the Buffalo Bills will be a laugh or a cry. The ups and downs are normal for life. Most are small, but the Bills game will be a ginormous thing here whether they win or lose. I don’t even watch football normally, but I won’t miss a minute of this one.

Fingers crossed!

Author: Help for Healing

My name is Darcy Thiel. What people say they appreciate most about me is my genuine nature. I utilize my professional and personal experiences to increase my understanding and compassion to help others. My career has many faces, so let me tell you about a few. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in NY State and am a couple and family therapist. As an Adult Planning Specialist and End of Life Doula, I take my experiences with my parents’ and husband's illnesses and passing to help others navigate the crazy, complicated medical world we live in. This dovetails with the books I have written. Bitter and Sweet: A Family’s Journey with Cancer, the prequel to Life After Death, on This Side of Heaven is an honest and raw perspective on coping with the diagnosis and subsequent loss of Tim, my spouse. I have done extensive speaking on the above topics through live audiences, radio shows, and an occasional TV spot. For more information, see my websites at www.marriageandfamilycounseling.net, www.babycooppublishing.com, or www.darcythiel.com. Copyright Help for Healing by Darcy Thiel © 2012-2019. All rights reserved.

3 thoughts on “Balance

  1. Hi Darcy, just wanted to let you know 2 things. 1- I think your jokes ARE funny. And 2- I enjoy when you talk during our sessions. Have a good night Kim

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